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5 Benefits Of Being Single – How Not To Be Lonely

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Movies make some things look better than what they actually are. Yes, we all want those walks on the beach holding hands, to get flowers at the office and romantic dinners but if you think about it, how often does that actually happen and who has time to do all that in a week?! Being single on the other hand does not have to be lonely. You might not get sweet texts and flowers at the office but here are reasons why it better than being in a relationship.

More friends

People who are single have a better social life. They are free to mingle with more people because they are not confined to just one person all the time. The time an attached person would spend every weekend, they would spend with different people.

Managing finances

Relationships are expensive. If you had to add up the dinners out, vacations, gifts and favours that would amount to a lot of money. As a single person means you will be able to save more and use that money productively elsewhere.

Achieving more

More time to better yourself!!! In a relationship, most of time is spent with your significant other. If it’s not work its them. Including texting and calls in between. With being single comes the benefit of doing what you want with your extra time, such as looking into furthering your studies, taking up a new hobby and peaceful naps on Sunday afternoons.

Freedom to see who you want

As people we all have more than one interest, we just choose to be with one of them. As a single, you are free to test the waters with any of your potential interests without the guilt of cheating on some one. When you feel good and ready, then you can consider one of your potentials. That’s if you were looking. There s just no one to answer to when it comes to who you were with, where and why.

Freedom on social media

Having your significant other may have you feeling like what you say of do on social media is being watched. You just might get that “We need to talk” if you like some ones picture or you happen to be too friendly with a person too often. A single is free to like, comment, poke, retweet anyone because they have the liberty!!!

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Love Messages She Would Love

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25 Good Morning Messages For Her

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Every girl secretly dreams of having a boyfriend who sends her sweet texts while she’s still rolling around in bed. You can be the guy of her dreams if you send cute wishes and romantic quotes about love, as you start the day. It might sound a bit cheesy and funny but it really doesn’t take a lot of effort. Just think about your relationship and tap into your heart for something nice to say to her. Jot it down and send it to her by text, Facebook, Twitter or any other way you want to. A mushy greeting and a beautiful hello is all it’ll take for you to earn tons of hugs and kisses if you follow it up by being the guy her heart beats for.

1) You are the reason I can be happy even when I am sad and smile even when I cry. Good morning.

2) You are the pulse that throbs in my veins, you are the antidote that frees me of all pains. You are the rhythm of my heartbeat, without you my life would be incomplete. Good morning.

3) There is only one remedy to cold shivery mornings – warm cuddly hugs with you. Good morning.

4) The beautiful morning DEW and the lovely morning HUE are symbolic of my love for YOU. Good morning.

5) I don’t care whether the sun rises or not, my morning starts only after I say that I love you a lot. Good morning.

6) Regardless of life’s ups and downs, you’re the sunshine that wipes away my frowns. xoxo

7) Today I promise to live without Facebook and Twitter, if you promise to kiss me all day and make me feel better. Good morning.

8) Since I’ve spent the night dreaming about you, I want to spend the day cuddling up with you. Good morning.

9) The rising sun reminds me of your radiant face and the misty dew reminds me of your dreamy eyes. The sounds of the bustling city remind me of your soft whispers and the cool breeze reminds me of your tantalizing kisses. Good morning.

10) If the early morning sky was a representation of every person I know, you are the sun and everyone else are the fading stars, soon to disappear by your blazing love. Good morning.

11) Your smile is the only inspiration I need. Your voice is the only motivation I need. Your love is the only happiness I need. Good morning.

12) It takes just one second to think about you in the morning, but the smile on my face lasts throughout the day. Good morning.

13) I hate to wake up because it takes me away from all the dreams I was having about you last night. Good morning.

14) I am tired of having to dream about you every night, I want you by my side so I can gaze at your beautiful sight. I am sick of waking up every morning and texting you, now I want to spend my mornings cuddling with you. I miss you, good morning.

15) Happiness, trouble, success, disappointment or failure – I don’t know what’s in store for the day, but I know everything will be fine as long as I have you in my arms. Good morning.

16) Every day I wake up and forget all the reasons that make me sad because I just need one reason to make me happy – YOU. Good morning.

17) My past will never haunt me, as long as I have you sweetie. Good morning.

18) I don’t know how long we will be together because that is not important. What I do know and what really matters, is that we will never be apart. Good morning.

19) The cold morning breeze reminds me of you – a tingling sensation I feel on my skin, bringing a surge of joy from within. Good morning.

20) Every night I fall asleep dreaming about what it would be like to hug you during the day and I pass every day imagining what it would be like to dream about you at night. Good morning.

21) Morning or afternoon, evening or night, I will always love you with all my might. Good morning.

22) I am sipping on hot coffee, looking outside my apartment window at the beautiful misty morning and all I can think about is YOU. Good morning.

23) I want to be the only guy to be in your heart, because you are the only girl in mine – now and forever. I love you, good morning.

24) I must be the luckiest guy alive because every day I meet the girl who I saw in my dreams the previous night. Good morning.

25) Morning is the most beautiful part of the day, because I think about you when I roll around in bed. Good morning.

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Memory Loss: Is It Normal or Serious?

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Manage Your Money Wisely (Spending Smartly)

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1. Set a personal budget and stick to it. Once you know how much spare cash you have, you need to commit to spending no more than what you have. If your problem is shopping for clothes -you have a passion for fashion- you need to learn to ask yourself "Do I really need this?" in the store. Don't waste money on designer brands and shop at used clothes stores. Shop during sales, but only if you actually need things from the store.

What are you priorities in life -- good food, vacations, or just time with the family? Knowing what you personally care about buying can help avoid costly impulse buys.
What things in your life can you cut and hardly notice -- such as a scone to go with your morning coffee, the 200 cable channels you hardly wash, bottled water, etc?

2. Only use credit cards for bills you know you can pay that month. Credit cards are not free money. Interest rates on credit cards are huge, even if they don't make you pay them immediately. Managing your money wisely means using your credit cards wisely-- as extensions of your budget, not separate budgets. That said, responsible card use helps to build credit, which is required for home and car loans. Some crucial things to remember include:

Read all of the agreement form before signing up for your card. What is the monthly interest rate? How is minimum payment calculated? Are there annual or overdraw fees?
Always try and pay more than the monthly minimum. If you pay the entire balance each month, for example, you won't pay any interest down the road.
One credit card is enough -- juggling multiple bills and statements is a surefire way into credit card debt.
Curb spending on credit so that you stay within 30-40% of your limit. You should never get close to your limit, as this is often difficult to repay without exorbitant interest rates.

3. Know your purpose when shopping. Impulse buys are the bane of smart shoppers and money managers. You need to ask yourself, before buying anything, do you need this to live? Will you enjoy it for a long time, or is it a fleeting pleasure? Avoid shopping as a recreational activity, instead saving it for the essentials.

Making grocery lists will keep you on track in the store, helping save money and plan meals effectively so no food is thrown out.
Never buy something just because it is on sale -- you are still spending money, no matter how much the advertisement talks about "savings."

4. Do your research before making any big-ticket purchases. Car shopping, for example, is not the time to turn into an impulse buyer. It is also not the time to get swept up in a sales pitch, no matter what the car dealer is trying to tell you. You can save tons of money by taking 2-3 hours to research cars, house, home theater systems, etc. in advance before you go shopping, avoiding rip-offs and getting what you came for and nothing more.

Browse online and set an appropriate spending cap -- the absolute maximum you will spend on a car/house/etc. Be very strict about this cap, no matter what a salesman says.
Look up how much the object should cost and memorize the number.
Check the prices at 2-3 different vendors to compare them. If you feel comfortable negotiating, you can mention to a vendor that you've found a similar or better price and ask them to lower theirs.
If you have time to spare, wait and look for sales. Typically, for example, car dealerships offer sales in the summertime.

5. Buy in bulk whenever possible. It is difficult to lower your essential expenses, such as food, but it is not impossible. Buying in bulk is more expensive up-front but you save money in the long run. You can buy toiletries, food, and cleaning supplies online or at bulk stores like Costco to slash your expenses.

When buying food you only save money if you don't throw any out, otherwise you simply paid more money for the same amount you normally eat.
Learn to read "unit price" which is the small label in stores that says "price per pound" or "price per ounce." Bulk items have a lower unit price, which means you are getting more product for less money.

6. Take out the money you can spend in advance if you have trouble saving. If finances are tight, one of the best ways to keep from overspending is to take out the total amount you have to spend, in cash, at the beginning of the month. Separate it out into envelopes, one for food, gas, rent, etc. so that you know exactly how much you have. Leave your debit / credit cards at home. It is a lot easier to simply swipe a debit or credit card without thinking about the dollar value of a purchase. If you have to hand over the same amount in cash each time you buy a non-essential item you are much more likely to pause.

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Top 5 Health Reasons To Take A Bite Of Chocolate

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Chocolate is experiencing a medical renaissance of late. Over the past several years, numerous medical studies have demonstrated that people who ate chocolate regularly experienced health benefits.

Top 5 health reasons to take a bite of chocolate

1. Chocolate can make
you a genius

A recent study demonstrated that countries whose populations ate more chocolate produced the most Nobel Prize winners. The researchers hypothesized that the beneficial effects of chocolate on brain function may explain this thoughtful observation.

2. Chocolate can help
you do better math

A medical study out of Britain revealed that students who regularly ate chocolate could subtract better than those who did not! Not only can chocolate help you balance your checkbook, but it will make you a hero to your kids when they need help with math homework.

3. Chocolate boosts
your heart health

Several studies published over the past few years have demonstrated heart benefits. In the first, men who ate chocolate on a regular basis reduced their risk of a stroke by 20 percent. An Australian study revealed that men who ate chocolate on a regular basis (and a fair amount at that, about 3.5 ounces per day) had a decreased risk of heart attack. Another large medical review showed that regular “users” of dark chocolate had less hypertension. In all cases, the benefits were most likely the result of the powerful antioxidants in the cocoa bean.

Healthy chocolate eating guidelines
When given the choice, dark chocolate always comes out on top. Not only is it a more potent source of antioxidants, it is lower in calories, has a more favorable glycemic index and is higher in fiber.
How much is too much? Although controversial, a safe bet is to stick to about half an ounce per day of chocolate (a little more than a chocolate square). Although a healthy treat, it still contains a fair amount of fat and sugar. A single serving also has a little caffeine, about 5 to 10 percent of the amount of a cup of drip coffee.

4. Chocolate is for
happy babies

A Finnish study showed that mothers who ate chocolate on a daily basis while pregnant had babies who were less fussy, more likely to smile and laugh, and were just plain happier. Happy moms mean happy babies.

6. Chocolate is your
perfect match

Did you know that the melting temperature of chocolate is the same as the human body temperature? Coincidence? I think not! And just think of how happy you feel when you and chocolate have a delicious date.

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6 deadly effects of having too much sex

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Whenever the word "sex” is mentioned, many of us draw closer attention – not just because it is a word we need to hear but rather, a word we are actively used to as adults.

In fact, most of us cannot ”feel the wilds of life” without a sensual taste of sex with our partners. Many of us have sex for various reasons best known to us…for kids, to release stress or just for the fun of it.

Well, while scientists have proved that sex can decrease anxiety and improve our moods, sex can also be unhealthy if it interferes with your day to day life.

Let us read of 6 major health problems that can be related with the effect of having too much sex.

Dehydration

Scientists have proven that too much sex ( 5 to 10 times a week) could make you become dehydrated – this means that your body loses so much vital water that could end up making you look pale. This is especially so if you have been taking alcohol before or while the sex. Though harmless, this is the most common effect of too much sex.

Urinary Tract Infection (UTI)

Having too much sex especially with different partners can expose both women and men to Urinary Tract Infections, a kind of condition which affects the bladder. To avoid contracting a UTI, you should take plenty of water and make sure to empty the bladder before and after sex.

Trouble Climaxing

Men are often unable to climax after having too much sex in a short period of time. This is because you have exhausted or considerably ’emptied’ the sperm and semen levels.

Poor Vision

While this might seem strange, scientists have concluded that too much sex could get you lose your sight. This happens when blood vessels in the eyes pop during sexual activity. You need not worry too much if this happens to you as it will heal and become normal with time.

Hair Loss

Sexual intercourse increases the levels of Dihydrotestosterone (DHT) in the body. This hormone, in turn, leads to hair loss as DHT is known to kill hair follicles and cause male pattern baldness. So those of us males having issues with baldness, we may want to go back and check our sex history.

Heart Attack

The last and most scary effect of having too much sex is that you could be on your way to suffering from a heart attack. While sex can be good for your heart as it is a cardiovascular activity like some others, you should do it with cautions if you have a history of heart problems as constant palpitations and gasps for breath (considering the roughness of sexual activity) could land you on the hospital stretcher.

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50 Motivational Quotes That Will Inspire You to Succeed

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50 Motivational Quotes That Will Inspire Your Success:

1. "If you want to achieve greatness stop asking for permission." --Anonymous
2. "Things work out best for those who make the best of how things work out." --John Wooden
3. "To live a creative life, we must lose our fear of being wrong." --Anonymous
4. "If you are not willing to risk the usual you will have to settle for the ordinary." --Jim Rohn
5. "Trust because you are willing to accept the risk, not because it's safe or certain." --Anonymous
6. "Take up one idea. Make that one idea your life--think of it, dream of it, live on that idea. Let the brain, muscles, nerves, every part of your body, be full of that idea, and just leave every other idea alone. This is the way to success.Swami Vivekananda
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7. "All our dreams can come true if we have the courage to pursue them." --Walt Disney
8. "Good things come to people who wait, but better things come to those who go out and get them." --Anonymous
9. "If you do what you always did, you will get what you always got." --Anonymous
10. "Success is walking from failure to failure with no loss of enthusiasm." --Winston Churchill
11. "Just when the caterpillar thought the world was ending, he turned into a butterfly." --Proverb
12. "Successful entrepreneurs are givers and not takers of positive energy." --Anonymous
13. "Whenever you see a successful person you only see the public glories, never the private sacrifices to reach them." --Vaibhav Shah
14. "Opportunities don't happen, you create them." --Chris Grosser
15. "Try not to become a person of success, but rather try to become a person of value." --Albert Einstein
16. "Great minds discuss ideas; average minds discuss events; small minds discuss people." --Eleanor Roosevelt
17. "I have not failed. I've just found 10,000 ways that won't work." --Thomas A. Edison
18. "If you don't value your time, neither will others. Stop giving away your time and talents--start charging for it." --Kim Garst
19. "A successful man is one who can lay a firm foundation with the bricks others have thrown at him." --David Brinkley
20. "No one can make you feel inferior without your consent." --Eleanor Roosevelt
21. "The whole secret of a successful life is to find out what is one's destiny to do, and then do it." --Henry Ford
22. "If you're going through hell keep going." --Winston Churchill
23. "The ones who are crazy enough to think they can change the world, are the ones who do." --Anonymous
24. "Don't raise your voice, improve your argument." --Anonymous
25. "What seems to us as bitter trials are often blessings in disguise." --Oscar Wilde
26. "The meaning of life is to find your gift. The purpose of life is to give it away." --Anonymous
27. "The distance between insanity and genius is measured only by success." --Bruce Feirstein
28. "When you stop chasing the wrong things, you give the right things a chance to catch you." --Lolly Daskal
29. "I believe that the only courage anybody ever needs is the courage to follow your own dreams." --Oprah Winfrey
30. "No masterpiece was ever created by a lazy artist." --Anonymous
31. "Happiness is a butterfly, which when pursued, is always beyond your grasp, but which, if you will sit down quietly, may alight upon you." --Nathaniel Hawthorne
32. "If you can't explain it simply, you don't understand it well enough." --Albert Einstein
33. "Blessed are those who can give without remembering and take without forgetting." --Anonymous
34. "Do one thing every day that scares you." --Anonymous
35. "What's the point of being alive if you don't at least try to do something remarkable." --Anonymous
36. "Life is not about finding yourself. Life is about creating yourself." --Lolly Daskal
37. "Nothing in the world is more common than unsuccessful people with talent." --Anonymous
38. "Knowledge is being aware of what you can do. Wisdom is knowing when not to do it." --Anonymous
39. "Your problem isn't the problem. Your reaction is the problem." --Anonymous
40. "You can do anything, but not everything. --Anonymous
41. "Innovation distinguishes between a leader and a follower." --Steve Jobs
42. "There are two types of people who will tell you that you cannot make a difference in this world: those who are afraid to try and those who are afraid you will succeed." --Ray Goforth
43. "Thinking should become your capital asset, no matter whatever ups and downs you come across in your life." --A.P.J. Abdul Kalam
44. "I find that the harder I work, the more luck I seem to have." --Thomas Jefferson
45. "The starting point of all achievement is desire." --Napoleon Hill
46. "Success is the sum of small efforts, repeated day-in and day-out." --Robert Collier
47. "If you want to achieve excellence, you can get there today. As of this second, quit doing less-than-excellent work." --Thomas J. Watson
48. "All progress takes place outside the comfort zone." --Michael John Bobak
49. "You may only succeed if you desire succeeding; you may only fail if you do not mind failing." --Philippos
50. "Courage is resistance to fear, mastery of fear--not absence of fear." --Mark Twain

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6 Priorities for Great Parenting

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Do you ever feel like your brain might explode if you have to remember one more thing? It’s no wonder—we’ve got a lot to remember! Passwords to access different websites. A code for voicemail. A PIN for the ATM at your bank. Home phone numbers and cell phone numbers.

Parents certainly feel the pain brought by information glut. Everywhere we turn someone is offering more advice on how to do it right with our children. We would like to help you simplify your priorities as a parent—whether your children are preschoolers, preadolescents, teenagers, or even young adults.

Let’s pretend we are old friends who, after several years, have just bumped into each other while making connections at O’Hare Airport in Chicago. After exchanging greetings, you begin telling us about some of your struggles as a parent. We nod and smile—“Been there. Done that. Several times.”

You ask for our advice. We all look at our watches—30 minutes until you board your flight for Hawaii and we head back to Little Rock. You offer to buy the Starbucks coffee. Here’s our best shot—seven guiding priorities for parenting. The coffee is hot, your pen and notepad are ready; here goes.

Priority 1: Prayer

This one probably does not surprise you. But before you glance at your watch and start tapping your foot, please consider carefully what we have gleaned.

Pray regularly. Bring every concern, dream, and desire about your child to God in fervent, persistent prayer. (Luke 18:1–8 contains a great parable on persistent prayer that must have been for parents of teenagers.) Two of the best times to pray with your child are on the way to school (assuming you drive him) and at bedtime—regardless of age. When our teenagers began to drive themselves to school, we used breakfast for this prayer time.

Bedtime prayers can be more personal for each child. Pray for his future spouse, his relationships, his activities, his challenges, his temptations, and his heart for God. Don’t assume that a teenager is too big for you to kneel beside his bed and stroke his face and pray.

Pray offensively. Before and after your child hits adolescence, pray for his peer group—that he will have at least one strong Christian buddy for the teenage years. Ask God to protect your child daily from others who would be an evil influence. Also consider asking God to help you spot your child doing things right so that you can encourage him in making right choices.

Pray defensively. On more than one occasion we sought the Lord’s help in removing a friend of questionable character from a child’s life. From time to time we felt that one of our teens might be deceiving us, but we could never be absolutely certain. In those situations we asked God to help us catch him if he’s doing something wrong. God seems to feel sorry for parents who pray this prayer! Pray when God brings your child to your mind. It may be at that very moment, your child is facing a circumstance of critical importance.

Pray with your child. It’s easy for prayer to become an exclusive dialogue—you and God. Why not do what one mom, Nina, did with her teenage daughter, Natalie, and become prayer partners? Natalie’s teenage years were filled with special moments in which she and her mom knelt together and prayed over Natalie’s struggles and challenges.

Pray together as a couple. During all our years of marriage we have ended each day in prayer together as a couple. No spiritual discipline has protected our marriage and our family more than this daily time of communion together with God.

Priority 2: Standards

If you think about it, there are dozens of things you will teach your children over the years. When Barbara and I began parenting, we began developing a list that eventually became 40 Lessons We Sought to Teach Our Children. And from this list you develop standards—how you want your children to treat each other, how they will respect you as their parents, etc.

Many parents haven't talked clearly about these standards. If you have teenagers, for example, have you and your spouse talked about dating, driving, jobs, grades, curfews, friends, and after-school activities? The list seems endless at times. We promise this: If you don’t nail down your own convictions ahead of time, your teenager and his peer group will establish their own! If you have not agreed as a couple upon guidelines (specific boundaries and standards for your child during pre-teen and teen years), your child will soon hit you with the divide-and-conquer strategy. Children are experts on whether dad or mom is the easy target on certain issues.

Priority 3. Involvement

We are not suggesting that you become the ultimate soccer mom. That’s not bad—being there at all of your child’s activities—but involvement means much more than driving the carpool and never missing a dance recital. Involvement means crawling inside your child’s head and heart. Involvement is moving from the outside to the interior of a child's life.

Involvement means diving into the turbulent currents caused by emotions—the child’s and the parent’s. Soul to soul. Heart to heart.

Priority 4: Training

The best parenting is proactive, not reactive. The reactive parent stays in a defensive posture, continually reacting to a child’s mistakes. A proactive parent goes on the offensive and does what is necessary to become the child’s trainer. Effective training involves at least three parts.

First, parents need to see the goal clearly. They need to know what they are trying to achieve in their child’s life.

Second, effective training involves repetition. A Green Beret once told me, “As Green Berets, we train to learn what to do in every conceivable circumstance—over and over and over again. Then in times of battle we know what to do. It’s just second nature to us.”

That is a picture of what we parents should do. We train our children and instruct them in making the right choices in the circumstances they will face. And we do it over and over, until it becomes second nature to them.

Finally, training involves accountability. One of the major mistakes parents make is giving children too much freedom without appropriate oversight. This is especially true if a family has more than two children. We tend to over-control our firstborn child and release the younger children prematurely.

My mom was the master at accountability during my (Dennis) teenage years. She demanded to know where I was and what I was doing. I can still hear her saying, “Where are you going? Who will be there? What time will you be home?” And my dad was right in there with her. The first night that I was allowed to go out in the car he wrote down the mileage on the speedometer and gave me a five-mile maximum limit.

Priority 5: Community

We have become increasingly convinced and alarmed that one of the most damaging changes that has occurred in recent years is the loss of community in raising our children. We used to look out for the children of others far more than we do now.

This type of involvement is rare today. In our age of tolerance, we have developed the philosophy that we have no right to tell another parent about a concern we have about his child. And our children suffer from our failure to be involved in the lives of others.

We learned through experience how much we needed the help of others to monitor and correct our children. Friends, true friends, cared enough to courageously call and express a concern about something they’d seen one of our children doing that they knew we wouldn’t approve of. Those are tough phone calls to make. And tough to receive. But in each and every case we’ve seen God use these circumstances to help us keep a child out of a threatening trap.

There is a natural community that we need to do a better job of tapping into for our children’s accountability. It’s your church and mine. Certainly this group of folks ought to have the right perspective on the value and worth our children possess. We are in this thing together, and that should pertain especially to raising the generation that is the future of the church.

Priority 6: Direction

We have found that most Christian parents desire more than anything else to raise children who will grow up to love Jesus Christ and walk with Him. With that overall objective in mind, we searched the Scriptures to discern what biblical goals we should aim for with our children. The four qualities we developed gave us four clear goals to pursue as we molded our children. Nearly every issue or trap our children will encountered could be linked to a young person’s need in one of four areas:

Identity: Every person is born with a unique, divinely imprinted identity. If we want to properly guide our children to a healthy self-identity, we must acknowledge and support the Creator’s design in three key areas: spiritual identity, emotional identity, and sexual identity. We must also communicate with them one of the most important messages they will ever receive—“You are made in the image of God. You are one valuable child.”

Character: From Genesis to Revelation, character development is a major theme of God’s work in people. And it’s one of the major assignments God gives us as parents. Character is how your child responds to authority and life’s circumstances.

Relationships: None of us was intended to make a journey through life alone. We need the strength, comfort, encouragement, resources, and power provided by God and others.

Mission: Every person needs a reason to live, a driving passion or calling that provides meaning and impact. Every child should be helped to understand that life is a dynamic relationship with God that overflows in love to other people--a love that the Holy Spirit uses to reconcile the lost to God. Everything else, as good or innocuous as it may be, is only a prop to facilitating this mission.

Credit Goes To Familylife.com

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Hardest Conversations You Will Ever Have With Your Spouses

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The five hardest conversations you will ever have with your spouse? Well, I can think of about 20 of them. So, I wrote those 20 down on a scrap of paper and found out that many were duplicates.

So, let’s just pick five doo-zees out of the bunch and see what happens with that.

“There’s no money in our bank account.”

One of the great things about being a couple is that you can solve some things as a couple and money issues certainly falls into that category.

While it may be difficult to admit that you are spending more than you earn, there are services that help people dig themselves out of debt and get back on their feet again. So, this conversation need not be all doom and gloom.

Of course, “There’s no money in our bank account and I just got fired from my job,” is a very different conversation. But so long as you are still earning, you likely have options for how to recover from money problems.

Being poor is not always fatal, however. No more Saturday nights at the movies could mean great at-home dates watching videos. The planned vacation overseas could end up as a great stay-at-home vacation. In the real world, second best isn’t always a disaster.

“I did something awful in my past.”

Almost everyone has a part of their past that isn’t their finest bragging point. But if you’ve done something truly embarrassing and this gets discovered, then you may have a tough dialogue ahead of you.

I have a friend who got into a car accident as a teenager and someone was killed. It has faded from his memory conveniently, but it never goes completely away. When he met his wife-to-be, he certainly had to get this off his chest. It was too big an event to ignore if he wanted a trusting relationship.

Helpful hint: One of the problems with something awful in your past is that it can form a wedge in a relationship. Try discussing it from an emotional standpoint. How did it make you feel then? How do you feel about it now? That allows your significant other to connect with you about the event.

“I think you have an addiction problem.”

The standardized approach to confronting someone about an addiction is called an intervention. This is generally done with several family members and close friends. It entails sitting the addict down and having this group confront them with irrefutable facts that show how bad an addiction has gotten.

The idea is to blast past the addict’s denial over their addiction.

This type of conversation has a specific purpose, which is essentially to convince the addict they are in more pain than they believe. This is because addicts decide to stop their addiction when they hit rock bottom – when they realize the pain it is causing is worse than the pleasure they are getting from the addiction.

Helpful hints: Find the right mental health facility for a loved one before you begin the intervention, but remember a therapist in the room is not always a good idea during an intervention, because addicts tend to distrust people they perceive as standing between them and their source of pleasure. Do some research and seek professional help beforehand, but don’t invite them to the intervention unless there are special circumstances that demand the presence of a therapist or social worker.

“I don’t like your family.”

This is a conversation you might think is tacky. But your significant other won’t take it that way. They will feel bluntly disrespected by this news.

The point is, good bad or indifferent, your family is part of who you are. Even if you dislike your family yourself, someone else telling you they don’t like them is going to go over like a lead balloon.

This can be a long-term disruption of your relationship with your spouse.

Helpful hint: Everyone has a few redeeming qualities and you should focus on that. If an in-law is truly horrific, that’s called the game of life. Your job is to win the game, not turn it into a battleground.

“I’ve Slept With Someone Else”

This is so devastating most of the time, that there’s no need to discuss the fine details. The news is too unholy for most to remember how you spent weeks trying to get the wording just right.

Just to put it out there, Plan B is to keep this indiscretion to yourself.

If that sounds like an horrific idea, then it is probably not an option for you. But the reasoning follows that sleeping with someone else is a surefire way to hurt your relationship. Telling the other party about it is just a way of hurting them twice.

You’ll just have to decided whether or not what you did was an indiscreet one-time mistake or whether it was a telltale sign that trust will never be restored. Remember, relationships pivot on trust, not love. Love changes over time. It has good days and bad days. But trust is trust. It doesn’t have good and bad days. It just is what it is.

Source: RomanceMeetLife

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